the meaning of marriage

Tim Keller's talk at Google:

when men counsel women: she's your sister

This is a really helpful discussion:

gentle, biblical pastoring

Mark Roberts has been writing a series on pastoring. In his latest piece, he concludes a discussion of how Paul and his companions pastored the Thessalonian Christians with these 3 observations:

First, like Paul and his colleagues, we need to interact critically and carefully with our cultural models of "ministry." We need to determine how we are to be like other models and how we are to be unlike these models. For example, we are like psychologists in that we listen carefully to people in order to help them grow from brokenness to wholeness. Yet we are unlike psychologists in that we share our lives with our flock, rather than maintaining the professional distance required of psychotherapists. We are also unlike secular therapists in that we do not require payment for services rendered.

Second, like Paul and his colleagues, we need to wrestle with the implications of the gospel for our pastoral work. I'm not thinking here of the crucial issue of the words we use to communicate the good news of salvation through Jesus Christ. Rather, I'm suggesting that the gospel determines, not just the content, but also the forms of pastoral work. Paul, Silvanus, and Timothy broke with their secular counterparts by sharing their souls with the Thessalonians because this kind of vulnerability and intimacy was required by the gospel.

Third, we who pastor need to imitate Paul and his colleagues by choosing to be gentle with those we serve, like a nursing mother. Moreover, we should choose to share with them, not only the gospel, but also our own lives. Gospel-shaped ministry is not just preaching and teaching and leading and praying from a safe distance. It's opening our lives and our hearts to people. It's choosing to embody the good news of a God who saved us, not by sending a message, but by becoming a human messenger. It's deciding to imitate the Son of Man, who came, not to be served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for others.

six years

Six years ago today
the man without side
died;
the man of ease and play
slipped away;
the man of unknown space
and story untold,
left his mark and
place.


(for Dad)

oh yeah, by the way

solo downtime

Scientists in the Journal of Research in Personality stated that just five minutes of quiet solitude is all it takes to reset the body’s stress-regulating sympathetic nervous system. In fact, when study volunteers took a solo timeout, their heart rates dropped and blood pressure stabilized. Plus, they subconsciously drew deeper breaths. This triple effect left them feeling focused, rejuvenated and 58 percent more energized.

From here.

the myth of monotasking

There is a fascinating podcast over at HBR with Cathy Davidson on how we handle multiple inputs etc. A couple of takeaways for me:

i. the value of disruption - causing us to see things we didn't know were there & couldn't see in our attempt at a singular focus

ii. we all see selectively but we don't all selectively see the same things - thus, the value of collaboration and the need for humility (no-one - not even you - sees everything)

critiquing pietism

In a series of posts earlier this year (part 1; part 2; part 3), Kevin deYoung reflected on pietism and confessionalism and what each can learn from the other. Among his critiques of pietism were that it:

• emphasises dramatic conversions
• tends toward individualism
• pushes for unity based on shared experience
• pays little attention to careful doctrinal formulation
• has tried too hard to be relevant
• has largely ignored organic church growth by catechesis
• has too often elevated experience at the expense of doctrine
• has worn out a good number of Christians by assuming that every churchgoer is an activist and crusader more than a pilgrim

Whether the categories of pietism and confessionalism are familiar to you or not, perhaps some of those critiques ring a few bells?

taking a long view

Every now and then, we in the church need to step back and take a long view. God’s kingdom is beyond our efforts, even our vision. In a lifetime, we participate in only a fraction of God’s work. While we cannot do everything, we can do something. Incomplete as it may be, it is a step along the way, a beginning, and something for God to bless. God’s grace does the rest. End results? We may never see them but only hold them trusting in God’s future promises. We are servants, not saviors. We are ministers, not messianic figures. We are prophets of a future not of our own making but for which we hope and for which we make a defense in our life. We believe God will create a new heart in us and a new world out of the old.

Peter Steinke, A Door Set Open

speaking the language of Jesus' heart

Commenting on Paul's words in Romans 8:14-16, Mark McIntosh says,

Paul is saying that what the Spirit does in us is to draw us into a relationship, a loving relationship into which we are adopted as children of God. This relationship is the relationship between Jesus and his Abba or Father. As the Spirit brings Christ's life to birth in our life, we find ourselves sharing with Christ in the most central and characteristic aspect of his life - namely the relationship that defines him and marks him as God's beloved child, his relationship with God as the loving source of his whole life. And more wonderfully yet, we find that we do not remain mute observers of this relationship but that the Spirit actually teaches us the very language of Jesus' conversation with the Father. The Spirit puts Jesus' words of loving adoration and trust in our own hearts and makes it possible for us to speak them ourselves.

(Mysteries of Faith, p.15)

learning from philip gould

A number of things struck me from Alistair Campbell's reflections on the death of his friend and Labour colleague, Philip Gould - for example, that focus groups were more about making sure lower/middle class views were not overlooked (and, so, were an expression of justice, not pragmatism). But it was this paragraph that most caught my eye, partly because it reflects some of the strengths that pastors need to display:

Like most meaningful activities, campaigns are team games. Philip was the ultimate team player and team builder; keeping spirits up; staying calm when others were falling out or falling apart; never losing sight of the big goals. Perhaps alone of the key New Labour figures, he made few, if any, enemies. He was a healer. Even in these past few weeks, he has been trying to heal some of the rifts and scars of the New Labour years.

your number's up

Apparently (althought I harbour some doubt as to accuracy) I am the 3,214,534,297th person to have been born into the world.

You can find out your own number here.

how to disarm jeremy paxman

This is a great example of clear, gracious, winsome speech.

HT: David Murray

the affections of unbelief

Nick Nowalk has a great piece over at The Harvard Icthus entitled The Christian Epistemology of Narnia. Apart from a long and judicious quotation from The Magician's Nephew, Nick offers his own thoughts on unbelief, including this:

it cannot be the case that people fail to believe in Jesus because they are not intelligent enough or incapable of evaluating the evidence coherently.  While sin smears the ways we choose to perceive the world, it is ultimately our affections that are the problem, not our brute capacity for seeing what is there.  Human beings would not have had higher IQ’s if they had not become sinners.  They would simply be more open to the truth in love instead of suppressing it in unrighteousness.  For Christians, the primary epistemological problem is humanity’s hardness of heart toward spiritual beauty.  We simply like the fantasy worlds of our own construction (where we are at the center) better than the real world where there is an awesome Lord who stands over against us in judgment and grace, calling us to account and beckoning us to align our perception of reality around Him.  

downtime & sacred space

Scott Belsky makes some fine points in this article about the need for downtime and sacred space.

It doesn't take much imagination to see his points are all grounded in a biblical understanding of life in God's image, even where unacknowledged.

the transfer of emotion

In the course of an article on Really Bad Powerpoint, Seth Godin makes these remarks:

Communication is about getting others to adopt your point of view, to help them understand why you’re excited (or sad, or optimistic or whatever else you are.)  If all you want to do is create a file of facts and figures, then cancel the meeting and send in a report.

May be some stuff in there for preachers to mull over. In a phrase, his point is that "Communication is the transfer of emotion", not just information.

being a disciple

Watching this conversation with Matt Chandler made me realise, again, that all Christians - no matter what their service - are first and foremost disciples of Jesus.

What would it take for you to believe in God?

Philip Pullman was recently interviewed (for the 5-minute interview slot) by Matthew Stadlen. Asled if he was an agnostic or an atheist, he said that, strictly speaking, he was an agnostic since he could not know for sure, but on a small scale (having seen no evidence to convince him) he was atheist. Stadlen then asked what it would take for him to believe in God - his reply was:

A direct experience of some sort, I imagine. I don't think rational argument would ever do it.

Mull that one over.

a competent minister

Maybe your ambition is to be described in somewhat more glowing terms than 'a competent minister'. But that's Paul's claim for himself and his companions (2 Cor. 3:4-6). I wonder what comes to mind when you think of that phrase: someone who can preach an ok sermon, has a good bedside manner for hospital visiting and feels at ease with young people? A competent minister.

I think Paul might be claiming something different and something more. He speaks about them being made competent (notice the source of the competency) "as ministers of a new covenant - not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life."

There is a real need for those who handle God's Word to know how to handle the transition from old to new covenant and what that means for those called to live as followers of Jesus. It isn't a sermonising skill - far from it; it is broader and deeper. It's being able to navigate waters of interpretation and application that honour Christ and the Spirit, that breathes life and vitality and newness, that addresses life in the Spirit in the here and now. That doesn't mean it's about how you handle the charismatic issue (that would be a shallow conclusion), but how we promote and cultivate and teach a life that is built on the reality that "Christ is the end of the law" (Rom. 10:4) and that radiates the glory of the new covenant (2 Cor. 312ff).

Perhaps your prayer - like mine - is to be made competent, knowing how demanding the task is and not claiming anything special for ourselves.

China: more at church than in the whole of Europe

See this article from the BBC.

You can listen to the radio show here.